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What is Your Dancing Style?

All through the ages and all over the world, there is one language that most everybody understand. It does not matter if it is a third world country or the richest country in the world. It is timeless, and anybody can do it. It is a language of dance, a pure expression of human existence and emotions: love and romance; passion and seduction; anger and disappointment; fun and excitement; confusion and uncertainty, etc. Dance is a story-telling through every motion of the body. When we dance, we express ourselves what we feel deep inside.

So, what is your dancing style? How do you feel when you let go, when you listen to every beat of the music? When music takes you on the journey, what story do you tell? What music do you like?

If you like slow and romantic, it is a deep expression of love. Like in the waltz, your story is to go hand in hand, foot in foot, despite anything. It is a projection of unbreakable bond and a deep romance. It is a story of oneness.

In tango, on other hand, there is lots of passion and seduction. The dance is full of emotions. Both partners are passionate of who they are – it is a relationship of desires, separate as individuals, but becoming as one in understanding. Heart-beat to heart-beat, eye to eye, smile – it sparkles a magic. Opposites attract and balance each other out.

Other dance stories can be of fun and excitement, one of independence and freedom. It is expression of joy, laughter and playfulness. Any dance can become an expression of life.

Some of us, however, restrict ourselves from dancing. We might think dancing is stupid or we do not want to make a fool of ourselves. Then it is our story of being afraid of what others might think. What else are we afraid of in life? Do we often depend on others opinion? If we can move, we can dance. If toddlers can do it and even some birds can do it, we certainly can do it. The next time we hear music, let ourselves go, let ourselves loose, be free and surprise ourselves, even if we have to start telling our story of confusion and uncertainty. We can start copy other people in their movements, until we become in sync with them. Then our story of uncertainty becomes a story of fun and unity with others. When we become brave enough, we can start telling about our uniqueness with movements of our own.

The key to dancing is to become one with the music and express what we feel deep inside. It’s just like listening to the music with every inch of our body. Music and we become one.

Camouflage

I did it. My friends did it. Lots of women still do it. Men do it, too. All creatures, animals and birds do it all the time. They camouflage themselves in their environment. They hide to escape predators; they hide to save their lives. A lizard’s skin tone suddenly resembles rustic fallen leaves on the ground. Squirrel’s fur color is exact like palm tree’s or any tree’s bark. Robin lifts up his head resembling a tree leaf. Insects become the same color as surface they land on. It’s a trick of survival, matter of life and death situation.

Now you probably asking, “What animals and we have in common?” We don’t need to hide from predators. This does not make sense. Or does it?

Looking deeply in ourselves, we’ll find we do camouflage. The only difference among animals and us is that camouflage saves and protects animals, but it has an adverse reaction to us. To some degree or another, we all have “a fit in” disease, and could be detrimental to our self-image, self-identity and even our health.

All of us probably heard or said to others “Oh, I like your outfit. Where did you get it?” Let’s admit it, we like to wear the same or similar clothes as others wear. Even fashion magazines compare the real designer clothes to bargain look-a-likes, that anyone can “afford.” By “fitting-in,” we camouflage our individuality, our individual tastes. We blend in with others, by avoiding to be different. We wear the similar hairstyles, similar jewelry, similar shoes. We even “copy” movie stars. Our justification is that now we look like famous people, or perhaps even better.

Don’t get me wrong, though. Some of us try really hard to be different, but our society is set up this way that we look at those people who are different as outcasts, odd, strange and eccentrics. Why can’t we accept them as normal human beings celebrating their differences and individuality? They just try to express themselves of who they are and not what society wants them to be. Better yet, why can’t we express unique ourselves in our clothes, our style full-heartedly and would not be judged and not judge others who do the same? Why can’t we just celebrate our differences?

Secondly, beauty is everything for many of us. We do everything we can to stay thin, young and beautiful. Some of us go to the extremes to have plastic surgery, to go under the knife, just to become a beauty from outside. That’s a form of extreme, another form of camouflage. We want to fit-in a beautiful world around us, among beautiful friends in a beautiful society where media plays a huge role in changing “ugly ducklings” to beautiful swans, or showing never-aging actors and actresses. Whatever happened to beauty from inside? Whatever happened to intelligence and creativity and resourcefulness as great qualities? Whatever happened for giving respect to older people who proudly are showing their age and wisdom? It seems that all of this is forgotten. All forgotten of what is important. Outside beauty, no matter what way is achieved, no matter how many times going under the knife is all that matters. To me, that’s a camouflage under the mask. Shockingly enough, still physically not developed teens go under the knife to get breast implants. Everything is just for an image, so they would fit in among beautiful people. All of this fake beautification is just a mask. What people do not realize is that no matter if person is the most beautiful from outside, if he or she does not have a high self-esteem, no boob job or face lifts will be good enough. They’ll feel horrible anyway. The first thing what they need fixing is their self-esteem. If they are proud of who they are, they’ll not need plastic surgery to make them fake beauties. Here is an idea for the media: how about a show portraying how people can be beautiful from inside. There are many everyday heroes doing great deeds. They don’t need to hide under fake masks. They are beautiful all around. It’s what inside that matters, and no makeover will change that. Then maybe our children will learn more valuable lessons in life.

The third camouflage is not that noticeable, but it is as destructible. Many of us don’t even know or notice it until it is too late, and we get easily lost. We camouflage ourselves among family, at our work, at our endless the same over and over again schedule, earning that dollar to pay the bills. We get easily stuck in the same routine over and over again. We become what everyone expects us to be: a great wife, great husband, a breadwinner, excellent employee or manager, great mother, great father… We start to become people-pleasers at no matter what price. We take care of all of the world, and become what world expects us to become, but we never truly find the time to take care of ourselves. We get so involved in the same routine over and over again. Days, months, years go by very quickly, and we lose ourselves in every day life. We lose ourselves. Period. Then, if we’re lucky enough, we wake up one day. Many of us are not that lucky. But if we are, we start asking ourselves, “Who am I? What do I like? What I’m here to do? I did everything for everybody, how about me? What do I want in life? What do I want to accomplish for myself?” We hit identity crisis. When our children grow up and move out, or if marriage did not work or spouse died, many of us start to feel empty. We gave all to others, and nothing is left for us. Some of us hit the bottom and get depressed. But some of us are lucky to still have time to re-discover ourselves.

Life is too short to be unhappy. So let’s be happy for who we are. Let’s wear clothes and hairstyles that express our individuality and makes us comfortable. It’s OK to be different. Let’s not follow the crowd. Let’s be proud of who we are, not hide behind fake masks of plastic surgery. Let’s be proud of our gray hair and wrinkles that show our wisdom acquired by age. Let’s find the time for ourselves to do what we want to do in our lives, and learn and accomplish more, and be proud of who we are. It is great to be imperfect. Nature is imperfect. That’s why it is so beautiful. We do not need to hide from predators like animals do. Therefore, let’s open ourselves like rose opens it’s bud and show the world who we truly are. Let’s come out of camouflage.

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Be yourself and inspire others to be themselves as well. World is too boring when people want to be the same.

Being Kind

Here are a few quotes I found at thinkexist.com about kindness that tell it all:

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” Leo F. Buscaglia quotes (American guru, tireless advocate of the power of love, 1924-1998)

“You can gain more friends by being yourself than you can by putting up a front. You can gain more friends by building people up than you can by tearing them down. And you can gain more friends by taking a few minutes from each day to do something kind for someone, whether it be a friend or a complete stranger. What a difference one person can make!” Sasha Azevedo quotes (American Actress, Athlete and Model)

“What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?” Jean-Jacques Rousseau quotes (French philosopher and writer whose novels inspired the leaders of the French Revolution, 1712-1778)

“Kindness is forgetting yourself for awhile, being aware of your surroundings and being willing to give a helping hand, or gesture, or even a smile to someone who may need it.” (by me, Ineta McParland)

Little acts of kindness make a huge difference. It makes someone’s day. It does not need to be big. Writing somebody a comment card for a great service you received or praising that person, smile at somebody who is having a bad day, rescuing injured and left alone bird or animal and bring to the sanctuary. It does not take much – but it makes a better day for all involved.

Can you imagine how world would look like if everybody would forget about themselves for awhile and take time to be kind to someone else?

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Posts tagged "photo and post by Ineta McParland"

What is Your Dancing Style?

Camouflage

Being Kind