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Got Monday Blues?

Feel hangover from the weekend?

Feel grumpy and tired?

Well, Don’t be so serious!

It is just a matter of shifting the perspective:

Give a kiss to somebody you love

Have a great conversation with a friend or family

Sharpen your claws if you have to.  Don’t put up with any crap!

If life gives you rain, go splash in the rain puddles!

Show tongue if anyone drives you nuts

Always look up!

Never forget to smile!

And always be ready to play (or cause trouble)

Have a Great Monday, Everyone!  Just look at it as the start of new beginnings!   Attitude is everything!

Here is something to think about…

Attitude is everything.  We can choose to be miserable, or we can choose to be happy.  I prefer to be happy.  Life is too short to be unhappy.

If someone treats us badly, they either 1) are evil people and out to get us, or 2) they have a really bad day.  More likely is #2, so instead of being mad at them, do something good like leave a better tip and a nice note, give them a genuine smile, etc.  This might totally shock them, or it might turn their day for the better.

If somebody KEEPS treating us like crap, we should not take it.  We either defend ourselves or leave, or both.  Let’s not choose to be a victim.  Life is too short to be unhappy.

To everything there is a solution.  It might take time and patience.  We might need to talk to others about our questions and what we need and we might just get the answer from unexpected sources.  Somebody who knows somebody who knows somebody might just have an answer.  Universe works in mysterious ways.  We just need to know what we want and talk to others.

Why beautiful things, like roses or Silk Floss Tree have thorns?  Similarly, that’s life.  Most painful experiences make people more stronger and understandable.  No matter how painful experiences are, they bring the best out in people; they bring lessons in life.  What does not kill you, it makes you stronger.  Everything happens for a reason.

Only our own fear stops us.  We can control our thoughts.  Therefore, we can control our fear and we can stop it.  Usually the situation is not that bad as our fear makes it to be.

We can not change the past.  Let’s look at the past only for lessons we learned.  We can only change today and the future.

What is our essence?  What is our passion?  Lots of people often neglect what they like to do.  Never neglect it because that’s who you are.  Schedule your passion if you have to.

We can choose to concentrate on negative or positive things.  If we’ll concentrate on negative, all we’ll see is negative.  If we switch to positive, we’ll start seeing things that will make our day, and might as well find a solution.

Worry and non-sleep only will ruin our health.  It will not help us with anything.  So don’t worry, be happy.  To everything, there is a solution.

Some things can not be forced.  If they have to happen, they will at their own time.  If things do not happen the way we want them, it means, there is a better plan waiting for us that will work for the better, even though we can not see it yet.

Whatever we will put out to the world, we’ll get back.  If we will be nice to others, majority of people will be nice to us.  Opposite is true.

Dream big.  What is the point of dreaming, if we can’t dream big.  Now do everything to achieve those dreams, and do not let anybody or anything to stand in the way.

Life is too short to be unhappy…

I did it.  My friends did it.  Lots of women still do it.  Men do it, too.  All creatures, animals and birds do it all the time.  They camouflage themselves in their environment.  They hide to escape predators; they hide to save their lives.  A lizard’s skin tone suddenly resembles rustic fallen leaves on the ground.  Squirrel’s fur color is exact like palm tree’s or any tree’s bark.  Robin lifts up his head resembling a tree leaf.  Insects become the same color as surface they land on.  It’s a trick of survival, matter of life and death situation.

Now you probably asking, “What animals and we have in common?” We don’t need to hide from predators.  This does not make sense.  Or does it?

Looking deeply in ourselves, we’ll find we do camouflage.  The only difference among animals and us is that camouflage saves and protects animals, but it has an adverse reaction to us.  To some degree or another, we all have “a fit in” disease, and could be detrimental to our self-image, self-identity and even our health.

All of us probably heard or said to others “Oh, I like your outfit.  Where did you get it?”  Let’s admit it, we like to wear the same or similar clothes as others wear.  Even fashion magazines compare the real designer clothes to bargain look-a-likes, that anyone can “afford.”  By “fitting-in,” we camouflage our individuality, our individual tastes.  We blend in with others, by avoiding to be different.  We wear the similar hairstyles, similar jewelry, similar shoes.  We even “copy” movie stars.  Our justification is that now we look like famous people, or perhaps even better.

Don’t get me wrong, though.  Some of us try really hard to be different, but our society is set up this way that we look at those people who are different as outcasts, odd, strange and eccentrics.  Why can’t we accept them as normal human beings celebrating their differences and individuality?  They just try to express themselves of who they are and not what society wants them to be.  Better yet, why can’t we express unique ourselves in our clothes, our style full-heartedly and would not be judged and not judge others who do the same?  Why can’t we just celebrate our differences?

Secondly, beauty is everything for many of us.  We do everything we can to stay thin, young and beautiful.  Some of us go to the extremes to have plastic surgery, to go under the knife, just to become a beauty from outside.  That’s a form of extreme, another form of camouflage.  We want to fit-in a beautiful world around us, among beautiful friends in a beautiful society where media plays a huge role in changing “ugly ducklings” to beautiful swans, or showing never-aging actors and actresses.  Whatever happened to beauty from inside?  Whatever happened to intelligence and creativity and resourcefulness  as great qualities? Whatever happened for giving respect to older people who proudly are showing their age and wisdom?  It seems that all of this is forgotten.  All forgotten of what is important.  Outside beauty, no matter what way is achieved, no matter how many times going under the knife is all that matters.  To me, that’s a camouflage under the mask.  Shockingly enough, still physically not developed teens go under the knife to get breast implants.  Everything is just for an image, so they would fit in among beautiful people.  All of this fake beautification is just a mask.  What people do not realize is that no matter if person is the most beautiful from outside, if he or she does not have a high self-esteem, no boob job or face lifts will be good enough.  They’ll feel horrible anyway.  The first thing what they need fixing is their self-esteem.  If they are proud of who they are, they’ll not need plastic surgery to make them fake beauties.  Here is an idea for the media: how about a show portraying how people can be beautiful from inside.  There are many everyday heroes doing great deeds.  They don’t need to hide under fake masks.  They are beautiful all around.  It’s what inside that matters, and no makeover will change that.  Then maybe our children will learn more valuable lessons in life.

The third camouflage is not that noticeable, but it is as destructible.  Many of us don’t even know or notice it until it is too late, and we get easily lost.  We camouflage ourselves among family, at our work, at our endless the same over and over again schedule, earning that dollar to pay the bills.  We get easily stuck in the same routine over and over again.  We become what everyone expects us to be: a great wife, great husband, a breadwinner, excellent employee or manager, great mother, great father…  We start to become people-pleasers at no matter what price.  We take care of all of the world, and become what world expects us to become, but we never truly find the time to take care of ourselves.  We get so involved in the same routine over and over again.  Days, months, years go by very quickly, and we lose ourselves in every day life.  We lose ourselves.  Period.  Then, if we’re lucky enough, we wake up one day.  Many of us are not that lucky.  But if we are, we start asking ourselves, “Who am I? What do I like? What I’m here to do? I did everything for everybody, how about me?  What do I want in life?  What do I want to accomplish for myself?” We hit identity crisis.  When our children grow up and move out, or if marriage did not work or spouse died, many of us start to feel empty.  We gave all to others, and nothing is left for us.  Some of us hit the bottom and get depressed.  But some of us are lucky to still have time to re-discover ourselves.

Life is too short to be unhappy.  So let’s be happy for who we are.  Let’s wear clothes and hairstyles that express our individuality and makes us comfortable.  It’s OK to be different.  Let’s not follow the crowd.  Let’s be proud of who we are, not hide behind fake masks of plastic surgery.  Let’s be proud of our gray hair and wrinkles that show our wisdom acquired by age.  Let’s find the time for ourselves to do what we want to do in our lives, and learn and accomplish more, and be proud of who we are.  It is great to be imperfect.  Nature is imperfect.  That’s why it is so beautiful.  We do not need to hide from predators like animals do.  Therefore, let’s open ourselves like rose opens it’s bud and show the world who we truly are.  Let’s come out of camouflage.

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Be yourself and inspire others to be themselves as well.  World is too boring when people want to be the same.

Our minds are so super-busy, that they would not shut up when we lay down to sleep.  They work over-time, like that energizer bunny:  keeps going and going and going…

It’s great when our minds work to help us to achieve things, when we get a brilliant idea and go for it.  Then sleepless nights are great.

However, what keeps most of us late at night is useless stuff:

1)  “I’ll think about it” stuff;

2) Worries;

3) Uncompleted “To Do” lists.

Earlier that day, we see something in the store or online that we really like.  We tell salesperson to put it on hold.  Then, we rack our brains, “Should we get it? Do we really need it? But it looks so good.”… After thinking, we decide to go back and get it.

Now imagine if we do not need to “think about it” and buy it on the spot.  By night, we would enjoy what we bought; we would avoid the aggravation of thinking; and at the end, we would save our time, salesperson’s time and gas.  We would have a free mind and be able to sleep at night.

The key is if we like it, we should go for it right now, not later.  Why to put our enjoyment on hold?

The most major useless thing that keep us late at night is worry.  We worry about major things and minor things.  We worry about health, money, family – you name it.  Think about it… Does worry do anything good?  It gives us headaches, sleepless nights, stomachaches, ulcers, unclear thinking, black circles under the eyes, nervous breakdowns, breathing problems, anger outbursts, depression.  Nothing good comes out of worry.  Worrying is usually looking at the worst case scenario of the situation.

So, instead of worry (that does not do any good), look at positive and find a solution.  Granted, some problems are out of our control – might take awhile to solve.  Some things we just have to let it be.  However, most problems can be solved one way or another.  With little innovation or different way of thinking, there is always a solution.

Instead of filling our minds with worry (that is hazardous to our health and sanity), how about to look at solutions.

To us that are busy-bodies, To-Do list is pretty essential.  There are not enough hours in a day to accomplish everything we want.  Therefore, the To-Do list is not finished – again.  We regret not be able to accomplish it all.  So now, we add undone items to tomorrow’s To-Do list, which probably will be unfinished – again.  What we do not realize is that we have become over-achievers.

What if we would throw that To-Do list out of the window and concentrate on stuff that really matters to us.  What if we do not depend on it anymore?  What if instead of multi-tasking and overextending ourselves, we concentrate on one task at the time that is most important? Would life be so much easier?

At the end of the day, then we can breathe easier knowing we achieved what was important to us.  It’s great to be imperfect.  Without “To-Do” list, there is no more pressure to be perfect – in that, there is a peace of mind.

We got to get rid of the useless junk that clogs our mind.  This way, we can make a space for more important stuff, like joy for life.

Silence…  It seems so easy, yet for some of us it is almost unattainable.  We are used to so much noise.  When all of a sudden, power goes down, we realize how quiet actually feels, if only for one moment.  There is so much man-made noise:  refrigerator, faucet, washing machine, etc., etc.  It is in our mind’s background, humming or dripping, but we’re so used to it, we do not even hear it.  It is also usually overpowered by blaring TV or music.  Some of us even fall asleep by TV.  This way, we can block all the noise that is in our heads:  recaps of the day, worries, what ifs, arguments.  Even if we would shut off all the appliances, we still would hear the endless chatter of our minds.

What if we would shut all that noise down?  Would that be possible? How that would feel?

The best way to do this is to go out into nature:  could be a park, by the lake, pond, the beach – anywhere away from the busy city life.  Leave all technology at home or in the car.  Once there, enjoy the moment:

1) Take the shoes off (just watch out for fire ants, if you’re in the south ) and feel every blade of grass or grain of sand under your feet.

2) If worrying thought crosses your mind – observe it and let it go for now – this moment is yours – free.

3) Feel the sun or breeze on your skin or in your hair.

4) Breathe.

5) Close your eyes for a moment.  Then, open them and see every detail around you.

6) Try to pick up sense of smell – perhaps the blooming tree or flower nearby.

7) Listen – listen to the silence.  Listen all around you.

Feel the moment with all your senses.  Walk where your feelings tell you.  Walk and listen.

You just got re-connected with nature.  You got re-connected with essence of you.  Your head is all clear of junk and noise.  Silence… – Oh, so precious.

You feel totally refreshed and re-energized.  Your head is clear.  Once your mind is uncluttered, perhaps you can find a solution, an answer, get a brilliant idea.  Most importantly, you feel totally alive and ready for anything.

Silence is brilliant.  It is like an empty canvas ready to be filled with the brightest of colors.  In silence, we can find wisdom…

We all have our energy fields.  Did you ever felt that somebody was having a bad day without even talking to them?  Or, somebody passes you, and you suddenly feel such a great energy from them, you can’t explain.  The worst is when after talking to somebody, you feel all your energy is drained.  That’s when you encountered an energy vampire.

These people are usually negative.  Nothing satisfies them.  After spending even a little time with them, you feel very tired, out of energy, as if somebody sucked you all out of your vitality.  Conversely, after talking to you, they may feel revitalized.  How to recognize them?

1) They usually talk on and on about their problems or somebody’s problems.

2) They slander about others non-stop

3) They are self-absorbed

They do not realize what effect they have;  they just bring their negativity onto others.

So, how to ward off this energy vampire?  What if they are our close friends or family?  You don’t need to say good-bye to them forever, as long as:

1) You stay in the present and be aware of it;

2) Do not take their talk whole-heartedly, do not take it personally;

3) As soon as you feel the energy drain, cut them off by saying you got to go or change a subject;

4) You do not have to listen to stuff you don’t want to listen.  Don’t need to put up with crap.

5) Be in control of conversation.

If you do feel your energy drained after conversation, go get fresh air, breathe.  Do not let your mind to recapture the whole encounter and conversation.  Think about something else, preferably something pleasant. Reclaim your freedom from negativity.

It is a mind and body connection.  It cannot be one without other.  If you try to straighten your posture (with books on your head, sleeping on the firm bed, exercise, etc.) and you feel miserable inside, nothing will help you – your body will slouch.  Now if you feel good about yourself, you will naturally stand up straight.

There are three kinds of postures:

A) Hunched shoulders mean:

• Hiding a growing body (for teen girls)
• Feeling like the whole world is on the shoulders
• Feeling protective (like hiding in a shell)

B) Standing up straight posture means:

• Great self-confidence
• Great attitude
• Being open to the world – by giving and receiving

C) There is another extreme posture that involves the nose up in the air which means:

• Feeling like the King and Queen of the world.
• Treating other people like they beneath them
• Basically nothing satisfies them.

Now how to go from point A to B?  If you are teenage girl, do not worry about your growing body.  It is normal.  Be confident that you are growing up.  If boys tease you at school, think of them as immature bastards who do not know how to treat a lady.

If you feel that the whole world is on your shoulders, you got to lighten the load up.  You got to light up, so to speak.  Allow yourself to laugh and have fun.  Do not take life so seriously.  Sure, it is hard enough for most of us.  We all have our stories.  The most importantly, it is your attitude that counts.  Just think of hardships as challenges like stepping stones to stronger you.  Every challenge is opportunity to learn something.  You can have hardships and learn from them, or you can let hardships to control who you are.  It is up to you.  To me, I think life is too short to be unhappy.  It is your pick.  No buts about it.

If you feel the world will hurt you, your body is in protective gear automatically.  Of course, things will happen – you cannot protect yourself forever.  But if you open up to the world and be willing to give yourself and your talents, I’m pretty sure you’ll be surprised of a great receptivity from people.  Of course, you can not satisfy everyone, but who cares.  Most people will open their hearts and arms to you once you show them what you are all about.  There are many good people out there.  You are great at what you do, what you create, what you love and are passionate about.  The world needs you and you need the world for great things to happen.  You got to show who you are.  Do not hide.  You have way too much to contribute.  So, stand up tall and show world what you’ve got.  Many people will love you, and who don’t – screw them.  They are not worth to get to know you anyway.  Do not shut down because of them.  Keep going.  There are many new people who are dying to know you.  Give them a chance.

Now as for case C, it is never healthy to go to extreme.  These people need to land their feet on the ground, and put their nose at normal level.  Even they do not show it, they have a complex about themselves.  Therefore, treating others badly gives them satisfaction.  The truth is that they are miserable inside and putting others down gives them a pleasure.  What you hold inside, that’s what you project to the world.  Can you imagine what their inside looks like?  Full of anger and miserableness.  Treating others badly is their protection from the world.  What they think is that if they treat others like a dirt, nobody will treat them badly.  Unfortunately, what comes around, goes around.  Most people do not like them for their “royal ass”, and nobody wants to be nice to them.  Now, if they would turn around and treat people with respect, they would be treated that way, too.