Influence
Interesting how people change their personalities in different circumstances. I see some of people I know as fun, genuine, interesting, free, happy. And then I see them with their partners in completely different demeanor. They turn into shy, quiet, afraid to look into the eyes and say anything people. Then, I’ve seen the sweetest and gentle people turn into obnoxious, boisterous, rude ones once with their friends.
How easily we give in into other people’s influences. Do we want to “look cool” among friends? Are we afraid what our partner may think if we will be who we really are? Maybe we will be ridiculed if we say something wrong? So, that’s why we turn quiet. Are we who we really are with our partner, who we are with our friends?
Many of us depend on other person’s opinion. We may turn ourselves into something we are not, just to be liked, or approved, or to avoid the fights. Is this really a way to go? Can we be real us in all the circumstances, no matter what? What if really does not matter what other people think? Can we be ourselves, then? What if at the beginning of friendship or relationship we would be who we are, and not “put face on” just to please a partner, would it be so much easier? Do we afraid somebody might not like us for who we are? I would say, “So what?” If friendship and relationship is not meant to be, it is not. At least, we would not be forced later on to become who we really are not; or at least, we would not be shocked that person we fell in love turned out completely different person we thought.
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