How to Finish What We Started?

We get a brilliant idea; our faces light up; we think of end result; we get excited; and then we let it go.  Or, we start on the idea, and then we never finish.  Or, we consult with others, and let others to put us down.

Why is it we let it go so easily?  Why we give up?  Why we do not go all the way?

There might be five main reasons:

1.  We think of others first (responsibilities);

2.  We listen to critics, including ourselves;

3.  We are afraid of consequences (good or bad);

4.  We have too much on our plate;

5.  We procrastinate.

Would it be great if we would go for that brilliant idea?  Would it be great to finish what we started?  Here are solutions:

I know, responsibilities come first when we think of others.  Did we ever thought that we are important, too?  We are important and worth everything.  So, if we wish to work on the idea, we got to learn how to say “no” to people or situations that get in the way.

We share our idea with somebody.  That person starts to criticize.  Do we listen to them and stop, or we persist on our idea?  Also, we can be the worst self-critics.  Our minds can kill any idea with “what ifs”:  what if it is a bad idea and it would be a waste of time? what if…, etc.  In any case, we should ignore critics and fire our self-critic and go for an idea, no matter what.

Third obstacle is fear.  We might be afraid of consequences.  It also comes with “what ifs”.  Think about this… Would we rather make an idea work, or would rather let it be in our mind and do nothing about it?  I would say, better to try it, then later regret the chances we did not take.  Then we see that somebody came up with the same idea, and we beat ourselves down why we did not do anything about it.  The  fear also might be of success.  It’s unfamiliar territory.  We are afraid of what we do not know.  We are worth of every success.  We got to think of the end result, how much we can contribute not only to ourselves, but to others.  That will keep us going.

Next, we might have too much on a plate.  We multi-task, but do not achieve anything.  We think of all these things to do; we get overwhelmed and end up not finishing anything.  At these situations, we got to look at one project at the time, one step at the time.  Do most important things or even the hardest things first.  Look at most difficult jobs as challenges and go for them.

The last is procrastination.  We think we’ll do it tomorrow, but when tomorrow rolls in, we focus on different things and we entirely forget our project.  We got to focus on our target NOW and back it with ACTIONS.  Do it right now – no ifs about it.

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Being Imperfect

Many of us are striving to be perfect.  Some of us go to the extent to have cosmetic procedures to look younger, to have a straight nose, tummy tuck, eyebrow lift, etc., etc.  Oh, we just want to look so perfect.  Yet some of us try to mold ourselves according other expectations, even though that’s not true nature of us.  Many of us try our best to be a perfect person.

What is perfect anyway?  Who and what defines perfection?  Is it another person or society or peer pressure?  Does any other person knows better what is best for us?  Do we have to rely on others opinion to know who,what or how we want to be?

Personally, I think perfection is boring.  If you are perfect, there is no room to learn anything.  Why do you want to be like someone else, having somebody’s nose or lips, or having the same mindset?  Why to become somebody that is not you?  Why to put a mask on physically or in actions and thinking?  The reasons most likely are:

1.  Somebody or someone will like us or love us more

2.  We would fit in according someone’s expectations

3.  Our self-esteem will rise

I think, it’s a bull crap.  If you are in that kind of relationship (1 and 2), get out now before he or she will turn you to zombie.  It means they are looking for somebody else, not you, that fits their mold.  If it’s #3, no matter how many plastic surgeries you’ll have,your self-esteem will remain the same, and you’ll turn into plastic alien who can’t live without pain pills.

Being imperfect is exciting.  Look at the rose.  It has thorns, but it has the most gorgeous and fragrant flower.  Imperfections in stones makes them unique.  All the nature is imperfect.  That’s what it makes it so beautiful.  The same with people.  Imperfection makes us all unique, one-of-a-kind and extra-ordinary.

Can you imagine how boring world would be made of perfectly beautiful people who look all the same and act in a perfect robot-like manner?  Imperfection makes a world more interesting, and fun.  Let’s celebrate our unique ourselves, and not let anybody try to change us, according to their expectations.

(For self-esteem, read my article at how-to-overcome-shyness-or-how-to-be-confident-and-brave)

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